When I was 19 years old I was in the passenger seat driving through Oklahoma. After dinner it was a little misty, but we decided to keep driving rather than stop for the night. Suddenly we had to slam on our breaks as our visibility was reduced to no more than 6 feet in front…
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Give the Perfect Unique Gift for Mother’s Day
Box of chocolates. Bouquet of flowers. Breakfast in bed. We all know (and yes we do love) the typical Mother’s Day gifts. If you really want to wow her this Mother’s Day go for something unique. Here are a few suggestions from some of my favorite small business owners. You can’t find these gifts on…
Profile of an Abuser- The Victim
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Victim The Attitudes That Drive the Victim Abuser The…
I am a Misfit
How often have you felt alone, unappreciated, or just plain weird? I know I do, a LOT!! When you feel like a misfit you often tend to turn that into feelings of inadequacy. “I’m not good enough because I don’t do…..”, or self doubt “should I be doing this instead of that?” Sometimes being a…
Profile of an Abuser- Player
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Player. The Attitudes That Drive the Player Abuser The Player…
Profile of an Abuser- The Drill Sergeant
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Drill Sergeant. The Attitudes That Drive the Drill Sergeant Abuser…
4 simple Steps for Betrayal Trauma Recovery
If you’ve read my post on what betrayal trauma is and how it affects you you may be wondering “well what now?” If you haven’t, go read it, don’t worry, I’ll wait….. OK now that you know the symptoms you’re probably wondering what to do for recovery. Quite frequently all these symptoms are lumped into…
The Ultimate Betrayal Trauma Resource Guide
When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the common advice to never go to bed on…
Getting Started with Art Journaling
Recently, as part of my healing from betrayal trauma, I have started an art journal. Now I don’t work in it nearly as often as I’d like, but such is life as a mom of young children. It has definitely been a hugely therapeutic thing for me. I’ve shed tears more than once while creating….
The 5 Love Languages- Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever struggled with feeling like you are loved and appreciated in your marriage, parenthood, friendship, or other relationship? On the flip side have you ever felt like you were showing an overwhelming amount of love only to have someone tell you that they don’t feel appreciated? You might be dealing with a love…