Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….
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Profile of an Abuser- the Terrorist
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Terrorist The Attitudes That Drive the Terrorist Abuser The Terrorist…
Profile of an Abuser- Rambo
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Rambo The Attitudes That Drive the Rambo Abuser Rambo is…
The Ultimate Betrayal Trauma Resource Guide
When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the telling you to never go to bed on…
5 Things Sex Addicts Say When They are in Denial
Almost two months ago I first wrote out our story of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. I shared it in a few Facebook groups and got some amazing support and love. Not one single person judged us or was unkind, well at least if they did they kept it to themselves. For some odd reason…
What is Betrayal Trauma?
In my previous post I told you that I have betrayal trauma induced post traumatic stress (PTSD), adrenal fatigue, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Some of you may have read that and said “huh? What in the world is betrayal trauma!?” I know that’s what I thought the first time I heard the term. Understanding is the first…
Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma- My Story
I am married to a sex addict. I suffer from betrayal trauma induced post traumatic stress (PTSD), adrenal fatigue, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Sex addiction has been present in both my husband’s and my family for generations, but that is their story. This is about me, but their stories affect mine. Without betraying their right…
Memorial Day- The Dark Side of Military Service
As I have seen all the media hullabaloo leading up to Memorial day this year it has caused me to reflect on my own military service as well as that of my husband. I joined the Marine Corps straight out of high school and served for eight years. My husband waited a little longer to join,…