What is Intimacy Often people hear that word and think “sex” and nothing more. To me, however, intimate is a word that oozes vulnerability, openness, communication, and so many more things that many of us struggle with. It is something I struggle with. Something I desperately desire and yet still shy away from. Intimacy is something…
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Profile of an Abuser- The Victim
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Victim The Attitudes That Drive the Victim Abuser The…
Profile of an Abuser- Rambo
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Rambo The Attitudes That Drive the Rambo Abuser Rambo is…
Creating and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
To say being married to an addict is difficult would be the understatement of the year. Let’s face it, even without addiction relationships are hard work. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial to finding health and happiness both for the addict and their betrayed spouse. When I first heard the word boundaries I was…
Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma- My Story
I am married to a sex addict. I suffer from betrayal trauma induced post traumatic stress (PTSD), adrenal fatigue, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Sex addiction has been present in both my husband’s and my family for generations, but that is their story. This is about me, but their stories affect mine. Without betraying their right…
Emotionally Focused Therapy- Creating Intimacy in Marriage
I’ve talked a little bit before about how going to counseling was a huge part of why my marriage has survived and thrived. The counselor that we have seen uses a method called emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This method focuses on identifying our attachment patterns that were formed in childhood, understanding what is healthy and/or…