The ultimate goal of the trauma recovery process is to find peace and confidence in the present, without being overwhelmed by triggers from the past. Recovery will look different for every woman. Healing is about finding the processes and techniques that work for you. Healing from betrayal trauma requires that you work through each of…
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Repairing Trust After Betrayal- 5 Steps to Rebuild Your Relationship
How Can I Ever Trust Him Again? I see this question asked over and over again from countless women who have been betrayed by their intimate partner. Can he really repair trust? There isn’t an easy answer. For me personally I don’t think I will ever 100% trust him again. I’m ok with that. After…
Head Above Water- How the Codependent Model Perpetuates Abuse
Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….
Profile of an Abuser- The Victim
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Victim The Attitudes That Drive the Victim Abuser The…
Profile of an Abuser- Rambo
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Rambo The Attitudes That Drive the Rambo Abuser Rambo is…
Profile of an Abuser- Player
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Player. The Attitudes That Drive the Player Abuser The Player…
Profile of an Abuser- Mr. Sensitive
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Mr. Sensitive. The Attitudes That Drive the Mr. Sensitive Abuser…
Profile of an Abuser- The Drill Sergeant
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Drill Sergeant. The Attitudes That Drive the Drill Sergeant Abuser…
It Doesn’t Have to Leave a Bruise to be Abuse- Identifying the Different Types of Abusive Men
It’s not always easy to tell if you are in an abusive relationship. We, as a society tend to see the abusive man as a towering hulk who leaves bruises on his wife and kids. The truth is far more sinister. Emotional abuse is real and dangerous with lasting effects. Did you know that 1 in…
I Am Determined to Rise- Choosing my 2019 Word of the Year
Last year I decided to skip the resolutions…ok who am I kidding…every year I skip the resolutions. Instead I did something new. I chose a focus word of the year. My 2018 word of the year was Enough, and you can read about it in this blog post. As I have focused on this word…