How Can I Ever Trust Him Again? I see this question asked over and over again from countless women who have been betrayed by their intimate partner. Can he really repair trust? There isn’t an easy answer. For me personally I don’t think I will ever 100% trust him again. I’m ok with that. After…
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7 Tips for Living a Mindful Life
I believe that recovery for the traumatized and the addict is completely impossible without mindfulness. We can’t heal things that we do not understand. Last night we were watching an episode of Once Upon a Time that is set in Neverland. Emma, the story’s main heroine, is presented with a map by Peter Pan. She…
Head Above Water- How the Codependent Model Perpetuates Abuse
Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….
Profile of an Abuser- The Victim
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Victim The Attitudes That Drive the Victim Abuser The…
Profile of an Abuser- Player
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Player. The Attitudes That Drive the Player Abuser The Player…
Profile of an Abuser- Mr. Sensitive
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Mr. Sensitive. The Attitudes That Drive the Mr. Sensitive Abuser…
I Am Determined to Rise- Choosing my 2019 Word of the Year
Last year I decided to skip the resolutions…ok who am I kidding…every year I skip the resolutions. Instead I did something new. I chose a focus word of the year. My 2018 word of the year was Enough, and you can read about it in this blog post. As I have focused on this word…
The Ultimate Betrayal Trauma Resource Guide
When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the telling you to never go to bed on…
Talking About Pornography With Your Loved Ones
Let’s face it, the birds and bees sex talk is hard enough. Talking about pornography is even harder. The sad fact is, however, that it is absolutely necessary. In our day and age pornographic images and movies are easily accessible online and children are being exposed to them at a ridiculously young age. It is…