In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Mr. Right. The Attitudes That Drive the Mr. Right Abuser…
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Profile of an Abuser- The Demand Man
In the book Why Does He Do That? Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Now we are going to start diving deeper into each type. This post is going to talk about the Demand Man….
It Doesn’t Have to Leave a Bruise to be Abuse- Identifying the Different Types of Abusive Men
It’s not always easy to tell if you are in an abusive relationship. We, as a society tend to see the abusive man as a towering hulk who leaves bruises on his wife and kids. The truth is far more sinister. Emotional abuse is real and dangerous with lasting effects. Did you know that 1 in…
4 simple Steps for Betrayal Trauma Recovery
If you’ve read my post on what betrayal trauma is and how it affects you you may be wondering “well what now?” If you haven’t, go read it, don’t worry, I’ll wait….. OK now that you know the symptoms you’re probably wondering what to do for recovery. Quite frequently all these symptoms are lumped into…
I Am Determined to Rise- Choosing my 2019 Word of the Year
Last year I decided to skip the resolutions…ok who am I kidding…every year I skip the resolutions. Instead I did something new. I chose a focus word of the year. My 2018 word of the year was Enough, and you can read about it in this blog post. As I have focused on this word…
I Am Broken and That Makes Me Beautiful
Have you ever heard of the Japanese art of Kintsugi? Artists will take a broken piece of pottery and repair it with a special lacquer that is dusted with silver, gold, or platinum. The broken piece becomes even more beautiful as the precious metals gleam through the seams which were once broken. Kintsugi is a…
As a Hen Gathereth Her Chickens- Scripture Journaling Tutorial
The metaphor of a hen gathering her baby chicks under her wings is used in the Bible, Book of Mormon, and Doctrine and Covenants. Now I don’t know about you, but when I think of the Son of God a chicken isn’t the first animal that comes to mind. They are pretty much flightless, quite…
The Ultimate Betrayal Trauma Resource Guide
When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the telling you to never go to bed on…
Creating and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
To say being married to an addict is difficult would be the understatement of the year. Let’s face it, even without addiction relationships are hard work. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial to finding health and happiness both for the addict and their betrayed spouse. When I first heard the word boundaries I was…
Preparing to Receive and Act Upon Personal Revelation During General Conference
Every six months The Church of Jesus Christ has its General Conference. General Conference is held in Salt Lake City and is broadcast on television and at church buildings around the world. This conference is an opportunity for the leaders of the church to address the members with messages of hope, faith, encouragement, and chastisement….