In the book Why Does He Do That? Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Now we are going to start diving deeper into each type. This post is going to talk about the Demand Man….
Relationships
It Doesn’t Have to Leave a Bruise to be Abuse- Identifying the Different Types of Abusive Men
It’s not always easy to tell if you are in an abusive relationship. We, as a society tend to see the abusive man as a towering hulk who leaves bruises on his wife and kids. The truth is far more sinister. Emotional abuse is real and dangerous with lasting effects. Did you know that 1 in…
Create and Self Publish Your Own Book With Blurb
As the holiday season begins many of my friends are talking about how they can make sure their kid has fun time off, but also keeps their mind active. It is so easy as a parent to just set them in front of a screen and let the time pass. I know, I’ve done it!…
The Ultimate Betrayal Trauma Resource Guide
When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the telling you to never go to bed on…
5 Things Sex Addicts Say When They are in Denial
You don’t have to live with an addict in denial. Here are five of the most common excuses a sex addict on Facebook used to avoid taking accountability for their choices, and why those excuses just don’t make sense. These responses were written by my ex-husband when he was in active recovery. He’s not in…
Creating and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
To say being married to an addict is difficult would be the understatement of the year. Let’s face it, even without addiction relationships are hard work. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial to finding health and happiness both for the addict and their betrayed spouse. When I first heard the word boundaries I was…
You’re Not Alone- Parenting a Child with Mental Illness
Remember that moment you became a parent for the first (second, third, or eighth) time, suddenly all you could think about was how amazing this tiny human would grow to be. You thought of their future job, spouse, how many children they would have, and all the amazing things they would accomplish in their lives….
What is Betrayal Trauma?
In my previous post I told you that I have betrayal trauma induced post traumatic stress (PTSD), adrenal fatigue, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Some of you may have read that and said “huh? What in the world is betrayal trauma!?” I know that’s what I thought the first time I heard the term. Understanding is the first…
Military Suicide- It isn’t Just About War
Lately I have been reflecting on my own military service as well as that of my husband. I joined the Marine Corps straight out of high school and served for eight years. My husband waited a little longer to join, he was a few years out of school, and served for 7.5 years. We met while…
The 5 Love Languages- Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever struggled with feeling like you are loved and appreciated in your marriage, parenthood, friendship, or other relationship? On the flip side have you ever felt like you were showing an overwhelming amount of love only to have someone tell you that they don’t feel appreciated? You might be dealing with a love…