When you are married to an addict and/or abuser a lot of the typical marriage advice just doesn’t apply, in fact it can be downright dangerous. Tips on how to love your husband more and serve him more can just feed the abuse. For example following the telling you to never go to bed on…
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5 Things Sex Addicts Say When They are in Denial
You don’t have to live with an addict in denial. Here are five of the most common excuses a sex addict on Facebook used to avoid taking accountability for their choices, and why those excuses just don’t make sense. These responses were written by my ex-husband when he was in active recovery. He’s not in…
Creating and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries in Relationships
To say being married to an addict is difficult would be the understatement of the year. Let’s face it, even without addiction relationships are hard work. Setting and maintaining healthy boundaries is crucial to finding health and happiness both for the addict and their betrayed spouse. When I first heard the word boundaries I was…
What is Betrayal Trauma?
In my previous post I told you that I have betrayal trauma induced post traumatic stress (PTSD), adrenal fatigue, insomnia, depression, and anxiety. Some of you may have read that and said “huh? What in the world is betrayal trauma!?” I know that’s what I thought the first time I heard the term. Understanding is the first…
The 5 Love Languages- Understanding How We Give and Receive Love
Have you ever struggled with feeling like you are loved and appreciated in your marriage, parenthood, friendship, or other relationship? On the flip side have you ever felt like you were showing an overwhelming amount of love only to have someone tell you that they don’t feel appreciated? You might be dealing with a love…
The Leaky Bucket-Managing Your Daily Energy Reserves
I had always imagined my energy reserves as a big metal bucket full of water. This bucket had holes all over the bottom constantly spitting out water as a small stream ran in. In my little mental cartoon I was manically trying to plug as many holes as I could to make sure my bucket…
My 2018 Word of the Year- Enough
A new year is a time for resolutions. I’ll be honest, I haven’t made one in years because I know I won’t manage to do it perfectly and I really don’t need one more thing in my life to feel like a failure about. Yep, that’s right, I often feel like a failure. You may…
Black Friday Deals for Large Families
When you have a big family you have to spend those Christmas dollars wisely! I’ve put together a list of what I think are the best Black Friday-Cyber Monday Deals for large families. I’ll be adding to this list as I see more pop up, so check back often! 1- Instant Pot- 8 quart Oh…
5 Simple Steps to Becoming Muchier
If you read my first post you’ll already know all about muchness, if you haven’t check it out here. Are you ready to transform yourself into a “much more muchier” version of yourself? Of course the journey looks different for every person, but here are a few tips to get you started on creating your own…
Talking About Pornography With Your Loved Ones
Let’s face it, the birds and bees sex talk is hard enough. Talking about pornography is even harder. The sad fact is, however, that it is absolutely necessary. In our day and age pornographic images and movies are easily accessible online and children are being exposed to them at a ridiculously young age. It is…