What does healing from betrayal trauma look like? What do women who are in a good healthy place look like and what characteristics do they share?
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Forgiveness Does Not Require Reconciliation
As Christians we are commanded to forgive all men. When you have been betrayed and abused forgiveness can seem like an impossible mountain to climb. How can we possibly forgive someone who has hurt us so deeply? I believe the answer lies in understanding the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. We Must Forgive to be…
Determined to Rise Retreat for Betrayal Trauma Sheroes
On August 13th, 2018 I did the scariest thing I have ever done. I hit publish on the most vulnerable blog post I have ever written, Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma- My Story I sat on that post for almost a year before I hit publish. I know God wanted me to publish it. I…
Sailing the Storms of Motherhood as an Introvert
What are the differences between an extrovert and an introvert? How does being introverted affect your motherhood? Want to read Jamie Martin’s new book The Introverted Mom? Don’t miss the giveaway at the end of this post! I have never been accused of being shy. I was the kid who could be friends with anyone….
I am a Large Family Feminist
I recently read and LOVED a blog post by my friend Sarah Lehberger about redefining Feminism (read it here). Her post really got me to thinking about my own definition of feminism. You see I consider myself a feminist, but I am afraid to claim the title. I don’t call myself a feminist, and I rarely…
The Truth About Submissive Wives
If you spend any time in the Christian world you are bound to come up against the doctrine of the submissive wife. Some of its greatest proponents are themselves women. Hard to argue against that right? The problem I see, however, is that this doctrine has run wild. It has come to be interpreted as…
Head Above Water- How the Codependent Model Perpetuates Abuse
Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….
Give the Perfect Unique Gift for Mother’s Day
Box of chocolates. Bouquet of flowers. Breakfast in bed. We all know (and yes we do love) the typical Mother’s Day gifts. If you really want to wow her this Mother’s Day go for something unique. Here are a few suggestions from some of my favorite small business owners. You can’t find these gifts on…
Profile of an Abuser- the Terrorist
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Terrorist The Attitudes That Drive the Terrorist Abuser The Terrorist…
Parenting is a Team Sport
When the movie “Mom’s Night Out” appeared in theaters I began hearing wonderful reviews, so I looked up the trailer. I must admit I was appalled. This is portrayed as a good, fun, Christian film and I just could not believe the main story line. Idiot husbands can’t handle a few kids. Really? REALLY? This…