Have you ever heard of a group called Pornaholics Anonymous? No? Neither have I. That’s because it isn’t a Pornography addiction. It’s called Sex Addiction, and it reaches far beyond pornography. Sex Addiction is the compulsive use of ANY sexual behavior that has negative consequences in your life. As with Alcohol, drugs, shopping, and other…
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7 Tips for Living a Mindful Life
I believe that recovery for the traumatized and the addict is completely impossible without mindfulness. We can’t heal things that we do not understand. Last night we were watching an episode of Once Upon a Time that is set in Neverland. Emma, the story’s main heroine, is presented with a map by Peter Pan. She…
Allowing Gratitude to Change Your Physical and Mental Health
When I was 19 years old I was in the passenger seat driving through Oklahoma. After dinner it was a little misty, but we decided to keep driving rather than stop for the night. Suddenly we had to slam on our breaks as our visibility was reduced to no more than 6 feet in front…
Four Compelling Reasons to Keep a Journal
I have found journaling to be an essential part of my healing from betrayal trauma and PTSD. Journals help me to process emotions, organize my thoughts, and keep myself grounded in truth. Let’s be honest, keeping a journal my not sound like the most exciting thing you can do for your healing. For years I’ve…
Forgiveness Does Not Require Reconciliation
As Christians we are commanded to forgive all men. When you have been betrayed and abused forgiveness can seem like an impossible mountain to climb. How can we possibly forgive someone who has hurt us so deeply? I believe the answer lies in understanding the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. We Must Forgive to be…
Head Above Water- How the Codependent Model Perpetuates Abuse
Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….
Profile of an Abuser- the Terrorist
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Terrorist The Attitudes That Drive the Terrorist Abuser The Terrorist…
Profile of an Abuser- The Victim
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of the Victim The Attitudes That Drive the Victim Abuser The…
Serenity Prayer Zentangle Doodle Drawing
What is Zentangle? I have recently discovered and fallen in love with doodle drawings also commonly called Zentangle or doodle drawing. This type of art has been around since the beginning of man, but has recently experienced a resurgence in popularity due to Rick Roberts and Maria Thomas giving it the name Zentangle and dictating…
Profile of an Abuser- Rambo
In the book “Why Does He Do That?” Lundy Bancroft outlines ten types of abusers. You can see the brief description of each type in my previous post on identifying types of abusive men. Today we are going to dive more into the mindset of Rambo The Attitudes That Drive the Rambo Abuser Rambo is…