When I was 19 years old I was in the passenger seat driving through Oklahoma. After dinner it was a little misty, but we decided to keep driving rather than stop for the night. Suddenly we had to slam on our breaks as our visibility was reduced to no more than 6 feet in front…
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Four Compelling Reasons to Keep a Journal
I have found journaling to be an essential part of my healing from betrayal trauma and PTSD. Journals help me to process emotions, organize my thoughts, and keep myself grounded in truth. Let’s be honest, keeping a journal my not sound like the most exciting thing you can do for your healing. For years I’ve…
Embracing Your Shero’s Journey
I’m a HUGE fan of all the Marvel/Avengers movies that have come out in the last few years. I’m a total sucker for a good superhero story. I especially love how each of the characters have pretty big flaws that make them human. As a kid I used to love playing superheroes with my friends….
Forgiveness Does Not Require Reconciliation
As Christians we are commanded to forgive all men. When you have been betrayed and abused forgiveness can seem like an impossible mountain to climb. How can we possibly forgive someone who has hurt us so deeply? I believe the answer lies in understanding the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. We Must Forgive to be…
Determined to Rise Retreat for Betrayal Trauma Sheroes
On August 13th, 2018 I did the scariest thing I have ever done. I hit publish on the most vulnerable blog post I have ever written, Sex Addiction and Betrayal Trauma- My Story I sat on that post for almost a year before I hit publish. I know God wanted me to publish it. I…
Sailing the Storms of Motherhood as an Introvert
What are the differences between an extrovert and an introvert? How does being introverted affect your motherhood? Want to read Jamie Martin’s new book The Introverted Mom? Don’t miss the giveaway at the end of this post! I have never been accused of being shy. I was the kid who could be friends with anyone….
I am a Large Family Feminist
I recently read and LOVED a blog post by my friend Sarah Lehberger about redefining Feminism (read it here). Her post really got me to thinking about my own definition of feminism. You see I consider myself a feminist, but I am afraid to claim the title. I don’t call myself a feminist, and I rarely…
4 Keys to Unlock Hidden Treasures in the Scriptures
The Bible tells us that if we search after God’s commandments “as for hid treasures” the Lord will give us his wisdom. Here are 4 keys for effective scripture study. *all verses quoted come from the LDS King James Translation* Find the Knowledge of God In Proverbs 2:1-6 it reads: My son, if thou wilt…
The Truth About Submissive Wives
If you spend any time in the Christian world you are bound to come up against the doctrine of the submissive wife. Some of its greatest proponents are themselves women. Hard to argue against that right? The problem I see, however, is that this doctrine has run wild. It has come to be interpreted as…
Head Above Water- How the Codependent Model Perpetuates Abuse
Your symptoms are not signs of a codependent mental disorder. You are suffering from betrayal trauma induced PTSD. Society needs to see and treat the victims as victims, not co-addicts. The codependency model is abuse. The Relationship Begins One day a young woman was standing on the shore of a big lake with her sweetheart….